Friday, 12 August 2011

And so one day, I decided to give up on Love...

Now I don't claim to know anything about members of the opposite sex, but I do know one thing - They sure know how to mess with your head! I wonder if it's like a secret sport for them and they get points on how badly they can actually mess with you. That would explain a lot...


When they do get involved in your life it's just stress after stress after stress. And they literally come out of no where. You're just walking along the Path of Life then BAM, Mr X crosses your path and you become besotted by him.  You think he is amazing. You want to tell him how stunning you think he is. Scratch that. You have convinced yourself that you need to tell him. Does no one understand this?? Why does no one see what you see?? He may even be - dare you say it - The One? You have found him! Well, that was easy...


Then BAM, Mr Y walks across your Path of Life. He seems nice, but who wants nice while you have Mr X (or you will have once he realises you two are perfect together..) It is hard though, to keep your sights on Mr X whilst warding off Mr Y at the same time - why will he not get the message?! 'You're beautiful' he tells you, 'I think we would be great together' he insists. You don't want to be rude so keep the laughter to yourself. Now you are in a real pickle. You want Mr X to hurry up and realise that he should be with you while Mr Y still will not leave you alone. It would be sweet, if you actually felt the same way.. Maybe you could introduce him to one of your girlfriends? She would love him...


As you contemplate this however, things start to worsen. BAM, you suddenly start to notice Mr Z. He's always been in your life of course. You know, the guy you turned to for advice on  how to get Mr X to notice you and how to get rid of Mr Y. But, for some bizarre reason, you can't help but notice him in a different light. How did you not notice before? Maybe it's time to forget about Mr X, I mean after all when you really think about it, Mr Z is just what you are looking for but never realised. Maybe you should - oh. Mr X now wants to be part of your life? Well this is great... isn't it? Mr X, The One, wants to be with you! You have to admit, you thought you would be more excited upon hearing this news. Maybe you were misguided. Misguided by his good looks, his charm and beautiful brown eyes. Maybe Mr Z , in front of you all along, should have been the one worthy of your attention. But you panic. What if he doesn't reciprocate your feelings...


Gah! This exact same thing has actually happened to one of my friends and what a load of unnecessary stress it was! It's hard as you get older to kind of sift through to the guys who are actually genuine and worth your time. I's nice to hear 'You're beautiful.. stunning'  but not if the guy is so practiced at saying these lines they become mere words rehearsed from a script...Though maybe half the confusion comes not from the guys themselves but from our own over imaginative minds. 'He likes me, he likes me not' enough to drive a girl crazy. 


Have you guys experienced or witnessed similar things?

27 comments:

  1. o gosh you're so lucky to have Mr X, Y and Z. I constantly have amazing Mr A, who is completely unattainable and clueless to the one sided attraction...and that's about it. Occasionally there's boring Mr B, who is nice, but I don't fancy or want to settle for, so of course I scare him off. And then I'm left with Miss Me Myself and I and what fun is that?! X

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  2. @Kam, oh noo, these arent my guys, I based it on a friend of mine haha! Ah Mr A, I know his kind.. Lol but sometimes Miss ME Myself and I is enough until someone better comes along, or Mr A wakes up!

    @Jazzy, Thank you!! :)

    xo

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  3. I love this! I can totally relate to all of these Mr's :-)
    Really nice post! Kinda makes us girls understand that we're all in this together..

    xx

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  4. I stumbled on to here from 20sb.net.

    This post reminded me of what Hamzah Moin has been saying here , and elsewhere over here and here .

    Two things that are generally true with Muslim guys. A guy would never ever know what is going through a girl's mind unless she herself tells him. A Muslim guy might be shy to let a girl know if he is attracted to her or there would be a fear of the girl's reaction judging the guy to be sleazy, and so would never tell her unless she tells him. Or second, the girl might just be thinking too much while the guy was thinking of nothing. But either way, it helps if girls are more forthcoming - if the girl indicates interest even minutely, guys (if interested too) would jump at the opportunity and take the lead; if not, the guy would still get an ego boost and be appreciative, but let her know of disinterest.

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  5. That whole situation just seems so complicated, but at least your friend has so many options open to her!

    Always go with your heart for love. Even if your heart gets broken, you would have gained a lot from trusting yourself with love. That's kinda my motto. :)


    xoxo,
    Addie
    The Cat Hag

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  7. Thanks for your comments and thoughts!

    @Radiances; thank you for the links and I agree with you, sometimes girls need to be more out there and tell the guy how she feels!
    @Addie; Yesss, I think that is so true, and it's what you wanted at the time so at least you have the good memories to last :)

    @Zizi; thanks and I'll check yours out!

    xo

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    i follow you back!
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    zizi
    www.zizibloom.blogspot.com

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  9. Neat post and love your blog... would you like to follow each other!

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  13. Oh wow.. you sure can write. Couldn't have been more true.. a girl's imagination can drive her crazy.. Its has happen to me.. I think communication solves it all out.
    xo

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  18. This is an interesting post. I've never had a Mr X, Y, and Z all lined up(!) but I have had my share of boy troubles! Mainly in my mid-teens when I didn't know what the FUCK anyone was thinking! Since then, I've dropped all 'game playing', stopped looking for love, and started to just enjoy the company of men without analysing anything too much.

    Love the honesty of your blog x

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  19. thank you for your sweet comment darling!!
    zizi
    www.zizibloom.blogspot.com

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  20. oh girl, i've been through all of this.

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  21. Thank you for your lovely comments, i find your blog full of spirit and good sense it inspires me, keep going on posting you'll go far, at least i hope <3

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  22. Haha !

    I know what you mean ...


    xx

    Meelena

    www.TheSerialShopper.blogspot.com

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  23. Hi! I just stumbled upon your website. Great blog post. It is so true. We don't want a "nice guy" but at the same time it's kind of like we don't want to settle for something mediocre. Gah, life. Sometimes you may like a person but they like someone else or someone likes you but you don't like them.

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