Where is the love?

I feel like we are in the middle of a pandemic. Yes, that's right, we are witnessing the outbreak of some new deadly illness that seems to have caused people to forget about basic human courtesy and the fact that, actually, being funny does not consist of insulting another person or group of people, just for the 'lols'. I say deadly because it can be; almost half of suicide among teens are related to bullying (source).

I just keep thinking though, were did all this come from? When did it suddenly become ok to send a hurtful tweet, or a nasty Facebook or Youtube message. Is it the anonymity that makes it seem less threatening or less real? Or are we all inwardly like this and this side of us was bound to come out eventually...? With phrases such as 'trolling' and 'keyboard warriors' being thrown around, it's almost been turned into a game now. Who can 'troll' the hardest, who can think of the biggest insult to make readers sit back and go 'ooooohhhhhhhhhh!' Is this a very severe escalation of the 'yo mama' jokes of the 90's that have now come back to haunt us? I have so many questions.

As The Black Eyed Peas would say, 'Yo. Whatever happened to the values of humanity? Whatever happened to the fairness in equality?  Instead of spreading love we're spreading animosity'  Yes, I just quoted The Black Eyed Peas... But it seems appropriate, if not somewhat dramatic at the same time. Seriously though, what happened?!

It's so easy to spread hate around isn't it? I feel like we've become so used to dissing celebrities (which is still wrong in itself) that we think it's ok to do the same to someone in your school, work, online. Yeah, I think that's part of what it is. Do you have any other theories? Places like Twitter, and being connected to the world, don't help either. I can send a tweet to someone I don't even know, it's so easy. And if you are a nice person 'in real life' then being anonymous on twitter may make you think you can take on a different persona and be an idiot. Ah of course, these are the keyboard warriors. Like I said, it's so easy to spread hate, but I think that spreading a bit of love, or just kind-heartedness, is the real challenge. Not how many retweets you can get. 'But it's my opinion!' I hear you cry. Stop right there. There is a difference between opinion, which we have every right to, and being just down right nasty and disrespectful.

Please note that I'm not writing this saying I'm guilt free of a tweet or two myself, usually explaining my strong dislike for Nicki Minaj... because I'm not. I just think it's something we need to be very careful about. And make sure that 1. we do not cross the line (you know the line...) and 2. we make a bit more effort to spread some love and just be, you know, nicer.

'Happiness is yours to take; it's born within the soul...'

'Stop searching for your joy in the hands of someone else; no amount of shared passion can make you love yourself'

We seem to make the mistake in thinking that happiness comes from certain things or having a certain someone in our lives; believing that these are sources of our happiness. While such things make us feel happy, they can't actually bring happiness if we are not, firstly, happy with ourselves. I mean sure, feeling happy around someone or when you get that amazing dress in the sale isn't a bad thing, but if your happiness becomes dependent on that then I think you begin to loose yourself a bit and these things start to become our 'masks' - soon enough we can't face a day without them, something that, undoubtedly, grows into a really unhealthy relationship to have with someone or some thing. 

Happiness truly only comes from ourselves, with being ourselves, with being comfortable with the person that we are, knowing who we are, what we like, what we dislike, what we want to do or who we want to become. It's such a difficult thing to try to explain but I think it's a fundamental basis of anyone's growth in life. Without having this foundation, any guy (or girl) can come up to you, telling you what you want to hear... 'you're beautiful... you're amazing...' and while it's nice to hear it's also like 'so what'. 'So what if I am, why does that mean we should be together?' It's not meant to sound big headed or anything like that but I think there should be more, not just a couple of pre-rehearsed lines, if things are going to be serious.  The whole idea of 'being happy with yourself' comes from the knowledge that, actually, you don't need someone to make you happy, but someone to share your happiness with. And in order to do that, you need more than feeling that you need a partner and the words of  'yeah, you're well fit' to try and reassure you. 

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4 more years.

I'm not even an American citizen, but I think it is important to really acknowledge how important it is that Obama was re-elected for a second term in office. If you really look at his opponent, Romney, and his core political beliefs (thoughts on women, ethnic minorities, homosexuals, the middle class etc etc) then it is evident that this re-election of Obama also shows that equality, integrity, morale and an understanding of basic human rights will always prevail.

(Source: Tumblr and Obama's official Twitter account)

'If this is love, then love is easy, it's the easiest thing to do'

• Who creates trends on twitter such as #ifiwasinvisibleiwould, #reasonsifailatbeingagirl and #majorputoff?
• When will I be able to afford a walk in wardrobe?
• Why do people still insist on playing their music on loadspeaker on public transport (I thought we've moved on from this?)
• Do Jamies 15 minute meals really just take 15 minutes to make? (I have yet to test this, but be sure that I will)
• In 50 years time, will I still be great friends with amazing people I'm friends with now?
• Why am I slowly falling in love with One Direction?
• Is it just me who thinks that Macdonald adverts are actually really good and clever? (Shame about their food... ohhh)
• Why do I always start blog posts then just save them in my drafts folder forever? 
• Why is there a show on ITV2 called 'Next top dog model'? (seriously)
• At school, why do we not learn basic life lessons like what a P45 is, or how to change a tyre or what you need to know when buying a house. These are important things to know right?

These are serious questions that I ask myself and I need answers guys.

In other news, I want to share some music that I am loving at the moment with you guys. Do you like them and what music are you in to at the moment?

McFly are baaaack! I'm not gonna lie, I was in LOVE with them and actually love their new single.

Ben Howard - Esmerelda. Amazing. Amazing. Amazing. Amazing.

Ed Sheeran - Give me Love. Need I say more?

Beyonce - I was here. This has been out for a while but I just love the video, especially the first minute of it - Beyonce looks so small against the images behind her.

Swedish House Mafia - Don't you worry child. I'm not really into dance music, but I just love this song right now

Jessie Ware - Wildest moments. 

This has been out for a while, but I just love this live version of her single