'Stop searching for your joy in the hands of someone else; no amount of shared passion can make you love yourself'
We seem to make the mistake in thinking that happiness comes from certain things or having a certain someone in our lives; believing that these are sources of our happiness. While such things make us feel happy, they can't actually bring happiness if we are not, firstly, happy with ourselves. I mean sure, feeling happy around someone or when you get that amazing dress in the sale isn't a bad thing, but if your happiness becomes dependent on that then I think you begin to loose yourself a bit and these things start to become our 'masks' - soon enough we can't face a day without them, something that, undoubtedly, grows into a really unhealthy relationship to have with someone or some thing.
Happiness truly only comes from ourselves, with being ourselves, with being comfortable with the person that we are, knowing who we are, what we like, what we dislike, what we want to do or who we want to become. It's such a difficult thing to try to explain but I think it's a fundamental basis of anyone's growth in life. Without having this foundation, any guy (or girl) can come up to you, telling you what you want to hear... 'you're beautiful... you're amazing...' and while it's nice to hear it's also like 'so what'. 'So what if I am, why does that mean we should be together?' It's not meant to sound big headed or anything like that but I think there should be more, not just a couple of pre-rehearsed lines, if things are going to be serious. The whole idea of 'being happy with yourself' comes from the knowledge that, actually, you don't need someone to make you happy, but someone to share your happiness with. And in order to do that, you need more than feeling that you need a partner and the words of 'yeah, you're well fit' to try and reassure you.
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