I realise that this will be quite an intense post compared to a couple of my previous ones but it's something I've got to thinking about over the past couple of weeks after something happened at work with a customer. It wasn't anything major but it really bugged me and got my mind working overtime!
Sometimes people can make you feel bad for who you are, your personality or what you like or find interesting etc. Or they can just make you question yourself and your abilities alot. You may know this person really well or not at all and they may mean to make you feel this way or they may actually have no idea what they are doing. It's quite interesting how this can happen; how the words or reactions of somebody else can have a negative impact on you and how you feel about yourself. It can happen in the most subtle of ways that it can often be missed. A big part of this is how you react to these people and these situations and if you, in a way, give them permission to make you feel bad about yourself. Without realising, the actions or words of somebody else can have the greatest impact on you and even stick with you for a lifetime. While writing this, I can think of loads of personal examples that just come flooding back. I suppose the most common examples that a majority of us would have experienced would be while at school, work or among a group of friends and someone blurts out that one comment. That comment about you, your abilities, the way you look or dress... anything really. And in that very moment it can be so easy to get sucked into what they have said, to think about it over and over and to believe it and eventually let it affect you.
The fact of the matter is that the only person who should have control over how you feel about yourself is you and only you. Ultimately you have power over how you feel so other peoples judgements or comments can only affect you if you allow it to. If you give them permission to. This in itself shows that you are in control of the situation and your feelings. Feeling bad about yourself is something that shouldn't happen unless, of course, you are causing harm or danger to yourself or those around you. Feelings are subjective to each person so you can't hand over your own to somebody else to mess about with. I understand it is a lot easier said than done! But sometimes the first step can be just acknowledging everything about yourself, the good and bad, and just letting yourself know that 'this is who I am.' or that 'this is and always will be a part of who I am' - there is no need to hid from that or become almost apologetic about it if it comes up again in the future. You don't have to apologise and you don't have to let others dictate how you feel. It is about you, after all.
I wonder if any of you have experienced this or something similar and know exactly what I am talking about? I'd love to hear if you have!
In other news, those of you who read my previous post will know that Gavina, Michayla and myself have joined forces to set up TrendTV! We now have a Facebook page if you would like to check it out and we have uploaded a second video which you can check out here. Enjoy!