|Quote by Dita Von Teese, found on Tumblr.|
I think a hard, but necessary, lesson in life to learn is this: not everybody you meet will like you. It’s pretty simple and maybe obvious but let’s talk about it. Because you could be the nicest person in the world - always polite, friendly and welcoming while also being confident, firm and sure of yourself. You might even be Beyonce. But there will always be a number of people that you will come across, maybe individually or all at once, who will dislike you. Heck, they might even actively hate you. Even though this is quite an obvious statement to make, I think it can still come as a bit of a surprise when you work with someone, you are at school/university with someone, or you find yourself in a social setting with someone and they give you the impression that they dislike everything about you. You start to question this and want to know why. Why do they not like you, You're not a bad/mean person so what is it about you that makes them feel this way? Sometimes, however, there is no explanation, which is probably not a satisfying answer but I believe it's the truth. That's just the way it is. Your personalities don't mix. And while you can meet someone who's personality doesn't mix with your own and can accept this and move on, some people can't.
I should probably point out that I'm not talking about bullying as that is slightly different. But someone who, no matter what you do, say or even wear, will always find a fault and will just not be 'okay' with who you are. At all. And when you come across those types of people, the best thing to do is just let it go. Move on, it's no big deal, it's 'whatever'. Because the moment you start trying to please that person (or people) is the moment you place yourself in a position of constant hoop jumping, altering and re-moulding. They start to dictate you how and who you should be. I don't mean literally, but if your goal is to please that person or group of people only so they will like you, then you start to force yourself into whatever it is they find appealing or think is 'cool'. I think it's a lot harder if this person is your boss or colleague because it involves your job/career and the company you work at. But to be honest, if your work ethic is strong and you know that you're getting the job done then that's literally all that matters in the work setting. The company pays you to work and get results, not to be liked by everybody there. Which sounds a bit... heartless? Ruthless? But bending over backwards to please others who are never going to be pleased will literally break your back. (okay maybe not literally... Unless they actually ask you to bend over backwards and you do it then that might genuinely break your back. Don't do that...)
It's very easy to worry about what others think of you. And I honestly think that people who say they don't care what others think of them or that it doesn't bother them are lying (unless you're Kanye West) because there will be some people's opinion who you do care about. And while it's important to be able to take constructive criticism in life, to grow and learn, it's also important to know that you can't please everybody, some people will actively dislike you and you can't constantly change who you are to fit into someone else's standards of what is 'cool. And that is ok.
YouTube wise, I am loving:
(I've been following her for ages but have recently gotton into her youTube channel and I love it, her editing is pretty cool)
This LookBook by Tar Mar
(IT IS SO COOL)
Check out my latest YouTube video: 'Beauty in the Mundane' HERE