Just peachy // Sunday Musings

Quote by Dita Von Teese, found on Tumblr.

I think a hard, but necessary, lesson in life to learn is this: not everybody you meet will like you. It’s pretty simple and maybe obvious but let’s talk about it. Because you could be the nicest person in the world - always polite, friendly and welcoming while also being confident, firm and sure of yourself. You might even be Beyonce. But there will always be a number of people that you will come across, maybe individually or all at once, who will dislike you. Heck, they might even actively hate you. Even though this is quite an obvious statement to make, I think it can still come as a bit of a surprise when you work with someone, you are at school/university with someone, or you find yourself in a social setting with someone and they give you the impression that they dislike everything about you. You start to question this and want to know why. Why do they not like you, You're not a bad/mean person so what is it about you that makes them feel this way? Sometimes, however, there is no explanation, which is probably not a satisfying answer but I believe it's the truth. That's just the way it is. Your personalities don't mix. And while you can meet someone who's personality doesn't mix with your own and can accept this and move on, some people can't.

I should probably point out that I'm not talking about bullying as that is slightly different. But someone who, no matter what you do, say or even wear, will always find a fault and will just not be 'okay' with who you are. At all. And when you come across those types of people, the best thing to do is just let it go. Move on, it's no big deal, it's 'whatever'. Because the moment you start trying to please that person (or people) is the moment you place yourself in a position of constant hoop jumping, altering and re-moulding. They start to dictate you how and who you should be. I don't mean literally, but if your goal is to please that person or group of people only so they will like you, then you start to force yourself into whatever it is they find appealing or think is 'cool'.  I think it's a lot harder if this person is your boss or colleague because it involves your job/career and the company you work at. But to be honest, if your work ethic is strong and you know that you're getting the job done then that's literally all that matters in the work setting. The company pays you to work and get results, not to be liked by everybody there. Which sounds a bit... heartless? Ruthless? But bending over backwards to please others who are never going to be pleased will literally break your back. (okay maybe not literally... Unless they actually ask you to bend over backwards and you do it then that might genuinely break your back. Don't do that...)

It's very easy to worry about what others think of you. And I honestly think that people who say they don't care what others think of them or that it doesn't bother them are lying (unless you're Kanye West) because there will be some people's opinion who you do care about.  And while it's important to be able to take constructive criticism in life, to grow and learn, it's also important to know that you can't please everybody, some people will actively dislike you and you can't constantly change who you are to fit into someone else's standards of what is 'cool. And that is ok.

YouTube wise, I am loving:

Lilly Melrose 

(I've been following her for ages but have recently gotton into her youTube channel and I love it, her editing is pretty cool)

This LookBook by Tar Mar 

(IT IS SO COOL)

Check out my latest YouTube video: 'Beauty in the Mundane' HERE 

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Your Soul could never grow old, it's Evergreen // OOTD

'...because even in the mundane and even in the simplicity of everyday life, there is good, there is happiness and there is beauty' 

- Beauty in the mundane

Shirt; Urban Outfitters || Black top; Matalan || Jeans; New Look

Keeping it simple with a black top and bright orange/red shirt ohhh yeaaaaaah. I love the colour of the Urban Outfitters shirt and it's extra baggy which is great to just throw on for extra layers. The weather has been super lovely recently and a couple of friends from uni are leaving back to their home countries so I've been hanging out with them before they jet off across the world. One of the things I love about University in general is just the diverse range of people you will meet. I haven't traveled that much before but within the couple of years that I have been at uni I've learnt so much about different cultures and customs and interacted with people from countries I'd only dreamt of visiting. I've met people from Asia, Thailand, Greece, Cyprus, Romania, Saudi Arabia, South Africa, Germany and so many other places I'd be here for a while if I were to list them all. I think a part of it are my chosen courses as I guess they typically attract international students but it's definitely something that will stand out about uni for me.

On a different note, I'm on the hunt for a new/better quality camera so if anyone can recommend any great ones that they take super awesome cool blog pictures with then do let me know!

Currently, I am loving:

Thinking out loud - Ed Sheeran (this song is 100% just beautiful)

Lost Queen - Pharrell Williams 

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Some thoughts on blogging

So I have been toying with the idea of deleting my blog for about three months now but I guess the fact that I'm writing this post to explain that means that I won't. Probably. But I'm just finding it extremely weird how even though blogging is a hobby, it's still a hobby that can stress you out or put a certain type of pressure on you, most of the time without you even realising it. I think a big part of that is because the main reason I started my blog in the first place was because I wanted to use it as space to showcase my work. And even though I've started focusing on outfit and fashion posts, I initially started with just writing 'articles' and thoughts and musings on Life.  I started blogging at University and as much as it is a hobby and I (still) enjoy it, it was always for the intent of showcasing it to future possible employers because that's what I was told constantly. Every time I spoke to lecturers or a career adviser - if you want to work in media, start a blog. Obviously having a blog doesn't mean you'll instantly get an interview but it can help. Even writing this I feel like I'm overthinking it because, to be honest, my blog is minuscule compared to others but that's fine because I never started it with that intention. I didn't even know you could make an actual career out of blogigng to be honest, although I don't think anyone did - it just kind of happened. Blogging is great and you can experiment with any type of blog content you want - fashion, outfit posts, make-up reviews, written posts, lifestyle, photography or videos and probably many more that I'm missing out. You can interact with other bloggers, join blogging chats, meet and become friends with bloggers - it's a very big community. You can be as creative as you want and have 100% control over the creativity. Yet sometimes I feel like that's a double edged sword because you can get stuck taking the same type of photos, or the same outfit posts or writing about the same things. It's great to have a 'style' and yes it's still creative, and it's important that your content stays consistent, but it's still sort of 'stuck in it's ways'. I'm trying to think how best to explain this but I don't think I'm doing a good job ha! Anyway, I decided to take a step back and just think seriously about the direction I wanted to take it. I've done that many times before but this time all I could think about was how it would be easier to just delete it.  Yet, there is something about deleting it that would signal that blogging is just another venture that I tried, got bored of and gave it up. I'm not bored of it though.

Hmmm, if any of that made any sense to you then well done because even I'm confused by it ha! But I thought I would share this feeling and see if anyone has ever felt this and has ever been caught in the limbo between 'blogging is a hobby and something I can do when I have the time and it will let me experiment with being creative' and 'blogging will be a great way to showcase my creative talents and I can use it to make me stand out a bit in the job market so I better make sure that my blog is as great as it can be'.

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How to deal with pain // Musings

'That's the thing about pain... It demands to be felt.'


I am told by Tumblr that this is a John Green quote. Well, John Green, you are absolutely right. Pain, emotional, physical, mental, small, big, fleeting or long lasting demands to be felt, screaming out for tears and attention. In the lonely hours of 3am or the bustling chaos of the morning commute, pain is not limited by time.  It won't wait until a quiet afternoon when you're ready to deal with it, it will intrude - uninterrupted, unannounced, just like that. And, like anything else on this planet, it can come in all shapes and sizes -  a memory, a feeling, a person, a word, sentences, phone calls, actions... A simple headache that seems resistant to paractamol... Heartache, that seems embedded in your soul.

'Demands to be felt...' No escaping, no running, no ignoring. But yet we try to numb, mask or conceal in any way we think possible. Who can blame us though, who wants to deal with any form of pain. Because it can be hard to find the strength, courage or time to move on, to heal, to fight it, one on one, and win.  But that's the thing about trying to numb any type of pain. It's still there until you face it, multiple times if you have to, and you come out of the battle with nothing more than a scar to tell the story.  So, pain. You must feel it, but not let it consume you, you must acknowledge its presence, but no need to make it feel at home, and above all, you must use it. Use it as motive to create - a poem, a blog post, a piece of art, music, new experiences, new relationships.  It demands to be felt, but it doesn't have to win.

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And in that moment, I swear we were infinite // OOTD + Musings

Coat; Urban Outfitters* // Dress/Top; ASOS // Shoes; Primark

Hello. Hi there. Welcome. Remember me? Yeah I'm still here, wearing bright colours, mismatch clothes and fifty million layers, what's new? Nothing. Everything. Hmmm, some things... I've been trying to think about what reason I can give about not blogging for a while that sounds more exciting and thrilling than 'I've had loads of uni work' but I couldn't think of anything so that reason will have to do! Also it's the truth and what's better than the truth??

So yeah I've been busy with uni but I met up with Gavina a couple of weeks ago and asked her to take a couple of snaps of my outfit that I sort of just threw together, focusing on how many layers I could get a way with because it was cold. Although the weather has picked up recently which is really nice. Nice like walks through the park, feeding your inner child with eating ice cream and making flower crowns out of daisy's and daffodils. The lovely kind of nice where you have to take a moment to acknowledge and appreciate its existence. Like when you're hanging out with friends and all you know about is joy and happiness and laughter and you just want to pause. Right there. Right in that moment. So you can go back to it and relive the good times again. Don't you just love those moments though? When something lovely is happening and you're aware that it's happening so you make a note to remember EVERY DETAIL so that you can store it in your memory box for years to come. When you know that you are actively making a memory that you will treasure. I think it's something we all live for to be honest. It's something I talked about briefly in my latest YouTube video actually (which you can check out HERE) after I saw Jack Howard's video about people who are self aware (which you can also check out HERE) and I finally understand the true meaning behind the Perks of being a Wallflower quote - 'And in that moment, I swear we were infinite.'

What do you guys think about being aware of those moments?

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